Phillip Watkins of the Greater Good Science Center said the following:
“The problem with pop-psychology approach to gratitude is that we’ve emphasized happiness so much as the result of gratitude that we ten to focus on gratitude as a means to happiness. It is; but when we’re focusing on it as a means to happiness instead of what gratitude is in and of itself, it’s likely to backfire.”
Happiness is a byproduct of Gratitude
I agree with Mr. Watkins. Focusing on Gratitude as a means to happiness should not be the main focus when cultivating gratitude in our lives. Gratitude is so much more than happiness. It helps us navigate through life in a more positive way. It helps relax, reduces stress, it helps us take a step back and see a situation in a new perspective.
A few months ago my husband and the company he worked for parted ways. While it was a win-win for the company and my husband, the decision to leave the company was made by my husband because of negative situations at work.
Focusing on Gratitude helped us get through
Focusing on Gratitude helped us get through the situation. Although our income would be cut significantly, we were blessed to have enough to cover our bills. The kids’ summer activities were already paid for, so there would be no disruption there — which I was the most grateful for — and my husband had options. This is why I focus on gratitude throughout my day. It helps me see that there are good things in my life. It keeps feelings of fear and doubt at bay. It doesn’t take trials away, or mean that I don’t feel sadness and disappointment. It does help me navigate through the trials in a positive way.
How has focusing on Gratitude affected your life?
Sharing our stories about gratitude is a way to strengthen each other. Please leave a comment about how gratitude has helped you, or send me your story. I’d be happy to post it with your permission.
